Self-Love: Being a transitional character in the story

Self-Love: Being a transitional character in the story

We’re big fans of the blog The Art of Manliness. It’s empowering, encouraging, and practical. Last June they published a blog entry with the subtitle: “How To Become Your Family’s Transitional Character”.

How great would it be if you were the parent, or sibling, the aunt, uncle or cousin who became the ‘transitional character’ of your family? What if you were the one person in your group of friends who stood up and said, I’m going to do things differently – do you want to join me?

Most of us are lucky enough to have people around us who love us. Sometimes the love of another is enough to move us to action when there’s something – a situation, a behaviour, a relationship – that needs attention. But we need to act out of self-love, too.

Self-love is not “treating” ourselves with food, drink, cigarettes, shopping. Self-love is acting in accordance with what we know in our bones is right for us. It’s getting help when we need it, saying no when we want to, saying yes when yes is the right answer, even if we’re scared of change.

Self-love is a special skill that requires learning (or conversely, self-indifference requires un-learning). It has nothing to do with ego – I bet you can name a big-noting show-off who is one of the most insecure people you know.

Self-love is understanding our boundaries. It’s knowing what hurts us, and what will indeed make us stronger. It’s knowing when the facts are required to make the right decision, and it’s knowing when having faith is the best way forward.

And it’s knowing that what went before us – whether it be a family member, a friend, or even the person we were yesterday – doesn’t have to dictate how we move into our future.

If we have self-love, the people around us respond by respecting us. We might even become the transitional character in someone else’s life. Most importantly, though, if we have self-love and we trust ourselves, we can most certainly become the transitional character in our own story.

To read The Art Of Manliness article in full, go here.
By |2015-10-22T18:42:03+00:00October 22nd, 2015|Behaviour, Change|0 Comments

About the Author:

I am the Practice manager and head cheerleader at Brisbane Hypnosis Centre, and teacher of Clinical Hypnotherapy at DK School of Hypnosis. I have a Diploma of Clinical Hypnosis (2000), a Bachelor of Complementary Medicine (2022), and a Bachelor of Arts (2001).